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Kim and I met in Lausanne Hall at Willamette University on one of the first days I was at college in the fall of 1986. We were not initially attracted to each other (partly because Kim was two years ahead of me and partly because we were both dating someone else at the time), but we became friends. Kim lived across the hall from me. We would often study together in the hallway (actually, she did most of the studying -- I tended to read a book or talk). So it went the rest of my freshman year.

That summer (1987), my girlfriend broke up with me. I came back to Willamette in the fall and pined. I dated a a little the first semester, but towards the end of 1987, Kim and I started spending more time together. While we were on a Campus Ambassadors retreat on Valentine's Day, we exchanged our first kiss (hey, keep the nausea to yourself, pal...). And so it went the rest of my sophomore year.

Kim graduated and went off to med school in Portland in the fall of 1988. I was failing my classes miserably. I cut my classes back to part-time, and then dropped out of school altogether in January of 1989. I spent another year in Salem, depressed, trying to make up my mind what to do about this person who stood by me. I waffled. I hemmed and hawed. I gave Kim pretty much every excuse to tell me to take a flying leap.

She didn't. We were engaged to be married on Christmas Eve of 1989 (I know, I know.... mush, mush, mush). Two years later, we were married.

December 14, 1991 at five o'clock in the afternoon
St. Stephen's Episcopal Parish
Portland, Oregon

The guests came from near and far. The ceremony was a high-church-ish Episcopal wedding, complete with incense and Communion. The reception was in the parish hall and featured a whole roast pig (yes, we killed the fatted pig - well, we didn't, but someone did for us). Although many of the guests did not know each other, they all knew both of us, so there was no shortage of good conversation. The best man made an excellent toast, to which the groom responded somewhat long-windedly. After the reception, the young folks retired to our tiny one-bedroom apartment where we opened gifts and celebrated for another couple of hours. And a good time was had by all.

Celebrant and Officiant

The Family

Attendants, Ushers, Etc.


Left to right: Mike's mom, Liv Erichsen, Kim's maid of honor, Kim, and Kim's mom	Left to right: John Cavanaugh, Mike's best man, Mike, and Kim's brother
Miss Shari MacDonald (now Strong) Portland, Oregon Maid of honor	Mr. Jeff Berry Portland, Oregon Best man
Mr. Mark Curnell Portland, Oregon Usher and presenter of bride	Mr. John Cavanaugh Portland, Oregon Usher
Miss Tina Sansom (now Ricks) Portland, Oregon Lector	Mr. Byron Kephart Philomath, Oregon Lector
Mr. Alan DeWitt Portland, Oregon Chief Worrier	Miss Kim Barger (now Berry) Portland, Oregon Candlelighter
The Misses Tracy and Julia Reisinger Portland, Oregon Guestbook

The cake….

Yumm!
Top layer: spice with custard filling
Middle layer: chocolate with raspberry filling
Bottom layer: poppy seed with custard filling

Guests

The Misses Tracy and Julie Reisinger Portland, Oregon Friends of Kim's from Willamette University	Mr. and Mrs. Betty and Harlan Holden Florence, Oregon Mike's adopted grandparents
Miss Tina Sansom (now Ricks) and Mr. Allen Ricks Portland, Oregon Tina was a friend of Kim's from Willamette University and Allen was a friend of both of us from AD&D	Mrs. Jean MacDonald Sandy, Oregon Maid of honor's mother and second mother to Kim
Mr. and Mrs. Byron and Teresa Kephart (and then-fetal Kristiana) Philomath, Oregon Friends of Mike's from high school	Miss Shawn Mitchell (now Fernandez) and Mr. Garth Fernandez Beaverton, Oregon Shawn was part of Mike's Rotary Youth Exchange class in 1984-85 (Japan)
Mr. and Mrs. Mike and Zoe Cavanaugh, Miss Liz Cavanaugh Portland, Oregon Parents and sister of John Cavanaugh and all-around nice people	Miss Helen Shorett Lake Oswego, Oregon A former desktop publishing client of Mike's and all-around nice person
Miss Daria Loy Portland, Oregon Friend of Kim's from Willamette University	Miss Robin Koopman Portland, Oregon Friend of Mike's from high school
Miss Frances Chapple Salem, Oregon Kim's favorite chemistry professor from Willamette University	Mr. Whitney Hunter Salem, Oregon Friend of Kim's from Willamette University
Mr. Tod Oace Portland, Oregon Friend of Mike's from AD&D	Miss Janine and Mrs. Ann Larson Portland, Oregon Friend of Kim's from childhood on and her mother, also a second mom to Kim
Mr. and Mrs. Jay and Sandra Gade Portland, Oregon Our next-door neighbors and all-around nice people	Mr. and Mrs. Tonya and Randy Jacobs (now divorced) Mulino, Oregon Tonya was Kim's first roommate at Willamette University and Randy was a friend there, too
Mr. and Mrs. Jim and Rita Mellama Beaverton, Oregon Jim was one of Kim's senior residents through medical school and residency and all-around wacky guy	Miss Amy Pitzer (now Forfex) Salem, Oregon Friend of both of us from Willamette University
Mr. and Mrs. Hans and Liv Erichsen Rena, Norway Mike's host parents during his exchange student year	Mr. Pat Kurkoski Bremerton, Washington Mike's roommate his sophomore year at Willamette University and all-around wacky guy
Mr. Fred Ross Portland, Oregon The sexton	Mr. and Mrs. Jim and Barbara Ciaramitaro Salem, Oregon Our fencing master who, along with his wife, became great friends to us both
Miss Sheri Gindhart Eugene, Oregon Friend of Mike's from high school	Mr. Jeff Berry and Miss Kim Barger (now Berry) Portland, Oregon Jeff was a friend of Mike's from high school
Mr. John Cavanaugh Portland, Oregon Friend of Mike's from Willamette University	Mr. Mark Nockleby Santa Cruz, California Friend of both of us from Willamette University
Mr. Alan DeWitt Portland, Oregon Friend of both of us from Willamette University

Mike and his Dad
(notice the portrait of Commander Wil Riker --
apparently a former rector of St. Stephen's Parish --
in the background on the right)